Control the “Anger” before it controls
you. Since, once it’s out of control, it could be destructive and lead towards
various issues. Though, keeping it in check is challenging, as our blood
pressure elevates and we can’t distinguish the rights from the wrongs, but it’s
possible. There are countless ways that can facilitate you in managing your
anger, or quick temper. Just give them a try, and I assure you, you won’t be at
the mercy of this powerful and unpredictable emotion again; you’ll not only
secure your career, but also keep contentment in relationships.
According to Charles Spielberger,
PhD, “Anger varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage.”
Now, of course, our daily rituals, or frustrated events, can irritate us.
However, the issue starts when the fury exudes through our actions and words. We
become so aggressive and sometimes don’t hesitate to assault the other person
physically. But, there are some people who have a passive-aggressive behavior.
In reality, they’re more dangerous than those who confront anger face-to-face. Since,
they get back at people indirectly and take their revenge at all cost; they
constantly push others down emotionally and psychologically, and get their
inner satisfaction from their prey’s misery.
Now, it doesn’t matter in which
category you exist in; just follow these brilliant below strategies for
controlling your anger, rather than challenging others for the fistfights.
ü The Warning Signs…
It’s better to pay attention to the way
anger feels in your body. It can massively help you in controlling it, in case
you’re a passive-aggressive person. Besides, when you know the warning signs,
you’re mentally alert too, and don’t let the extreme aggression ruin your life…
The warning signs include rapid breathing, heart pounding, tensed shoulders,
trouble in concentration, clenching of jaw, and etc.
ü Think Before You Speak…
I know it’s hard, but in the heat of moment
any bad word can make us regret later. For that reason, it’s better to calm
your nerves and collect your words before you speak. If it’s not possible for
you, leave the situation, without saying a single word. Get some fresh air, and
assess the whole situation calmly.
ü Constructive Discussion…
It’s not that tough, especially if you’re
with your partner, or a family member. Allow them to share their pain with you.
Try to apprehend their core feelings before your conclude anything. Since,
sometimes, constructive discussions change our overall perspective. It allows us
to understand others. Besides, when you do constructive discussion, you buy
people’s loyalty, and keep them in your ring.
ü Identify Possible Solution…
Without solutions, you can’t water down the
feelings of anger. When you rely on the solution, rather than assaulting people
with words, you manage the levels of anger adeptly, as you’ve a different
mindset. You know that unnecessary anger would make the matters worse. So, it’s
better to fix things at once.
ü Change the Environment…
If something is troubling constantly, it’s
better to change the environment, and perform that thing from some other angle.
Constant troubles irritate us mentally. Though, we don’t recognize them, as
they’re associated with our daily rituals, but in reality, they flood us with
stress and push us to exhibit rage. In addition, when we change the
environment, we automatically feel relaxed. There isn’t any pressure on our
nerves, and we make decisions efficiently as well. In case it’s not possible
for you to change the environment, or the path of your road, try the simple
relaxation technique. For examples, breathe deeply and visualize a relaxing
experience.
